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10 Questions to Spark Passionate Thoughts!

10 Thought-Provoking Questions

Ten questions that spark passionate thoughts about who you are, what you want out of life and where your journey might be headed.

Take some time to read through these questions and think about what they mean to you as well as what kind of answers you would provide. You might be surprised where this little exercise can lead.

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Creating Margin in Your Life

Creating Margin In your Life

Last week a client sent me an article about the idea of creating “margin” in our lives.  Several months ago, this same client sent me a different article about the idea of stopping our involvement in activities before we reach our limit – in other words stopping BEFORE we’ve had enough – BEFORE we are tired, irritable, spent, done, etc. 

What both of these articles have in common is the idea of creating boundaries for ourselves that honor our physical, mental and emotional reservoirs.

In order to create these boundaries, we first have to gain awareness about the where the boundaries should be set, why we want to set boundaries and what we are going to gain from the boundary setting process.

Let’s start by defining boundaries or margins.  Both words are used in this context describe the “space” we create between our limits and ourselves.

There are three main types of “space” or margin – physical margin, mental margin and emotional margin.  Most people can easily understand the idea of physical margin.  This type of margin is largely about having enough time to accomplish tasks and still physically attend to your own needs. 

Is there sufficient time on your calendar allowing you to be on time or early for your various commitments?  Is there enough time built into your schedule to provide YOU with physical margin between commitments.  For example, can you eat a mindful lunch during the day?  Can you take fifteen-minute breaks to stretch your legs, use the restroom, have a snack or attend to personal business? If the answer is “no”, then you might consider the idea of adjusting your schedule to include more physical margin.

Physical margin can also mean your physical environment – is your house, your office or your car so messy that there is no “space” to be comfortable?  Are you living an unhealthy lifestyle that makes your physical body feel dishonored?  Do you have enough space between you and the rest of the world so that you can regularly recharge?  All of these ideas speak to the idea of physical margin.

The next type of margin is mental margin.  Mental margin is the idea of having “space” between tasks or mental activities so that there is transition time for your brain to switch from one set of mental processes to another.  As my coaching career evolved, I became more aware of the benefits of mental margin – learning a lot about this concept from my ADHD clients and colleagues whose difficulties with executive function make transition time between tasks even more important.

Giving your brain a chance to break, rest, meditate, clear and refresh between tasks can reduce the feelings of mental fatigue and “mental whiplash” that can happen when you require yourself to go from one task to another with no break or time for reflection.

There is a lot of research available about mental margin or mental slack – some of our most creative moments can happen during slack time – the time we give ourselves to either transition to another project or just REST.  If you are interested in learning more about this idea, I recommend reading Tom DeMarco’s book, Slack: Getting Past Burnout, Busywork and the Myth of Total Efficiency.

The third type of margin is emotional margin.  I believe this type of margin is not only the hardest to understand but also the hardest to create.  For many, the idea of providing ourselves with emotional margin feels like weakness or a waste of time and efficiency.  Some people may even feel unworthy of creating emotional margin.  If you are familiar with the idea of “the inner critic”, doing some work with a coach around why your inner critic may be hampering your creation of emotional margin could be incredibly helpful.

What is emotional margin?  It is the “space” we need to feel, experience, process and deal with emotionally charged experiences – positive or negative.   By giving yourself permission to create the “space” needed to process charged emotional experiences, from the death of a loved one to the birth of a child, you give yourself the gift of being fully alive. 

Many times we go through our day trying to keep up the appearance that the emotionally charged experiences that rock our universes do not deserve any extra “space” in our existence.  We try to act as if nothing momentous has happened and just go about our regular days.  We think this “acting like everything is normal” behavior is less emotionally costly than taking the time to set up some emotional margin to process feelings.

The reality?  It is very costly when you refuse to actively create the emotional margin you need to process the positive or negative experiences that happen in life.  It is like self-inflicted torture.  I know this from personal experience and from watching many clients struggle through crises because they resist creating much needed emotional margin.  Our zest for life can fade when we refuse to create emotional margin.  Even worse, we can miss out on all of the growth and awareness that can emerge from creating emotional margin.

Take the time today to create the awareness you may need around the idea of emotional margin.  There is no need to sacrifice the benefits of having pockets of this margin in the service of progress and productivity.  If you are more often than not emotionally drained, stressed, angry, isolated, unfulfilled, have feelings of being stuck, paralyzed or trapped, have a sense of overload and reduced creativity, think about reaching out to your support system to help you create the emotional margin you may need.

Building emotional margin, like building physical or mental margin, is about creating new habits.  Habits require practice.  What are you ultimately going to gain from all of these new margin-creating habits?  The list is no doubt endless, but one thing I know for sure - you will increase your feelings of fulfillment and strengthen your personal resilience.

If you are interested in learning more about creating margin in your life or would like to work with a professional life coach please contact me at This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. .

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Decision Making 101

Is Fear Complicating Your Decision Making Process?

Decision Making 101

Needless to say I read a lot of self-help, self-improvement, and inspirational style material each month. My goal is to digest some great nuggets for myself and glean some of what I call "take aways" for my clients. Sometimes these "take aways" are meaningful perspectives that I pull from the articles. Sometimes they are phrases I design based on what I read and then ask my clients to use these phrases in the context of what we are discussing that particular week.

One of my favorite "take away" perspectives is that allowing fear to be the overriding emotion involved in decision making greatly complicates your ability to come to a decision.

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Donating Food This Holiday Season

Tips to make sure that you are donating the healthiest options.

Donating Food This Holiday Season

Throughout the holiday season many businesses, community organizations and churches hold food drives, and the food banks throughout Austin and Travis County greatly benefit from people’s generosity.  When making a donation, it is important to donate food that is safe and nutritious. By keeping a few simple tips in mind, you can enhance the value of the food donations you make.


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Expert Advice on How to Make a Desired New Habit Stick!

The 5 Rules of Habit Forming That Work!

Expert Advice on How to Make a Desired New Habit Stick!

The most important concept regarding adding habit forming lifestyle changes to your life is that there is no time like the present. You do not need to wait for the perfect time or until the kids are in school or until the holidays are over or whatever excuse you normally make to start a new routine. The time is now. So GET STARTED!

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Get Out of Your Head and on with Your Dreams:

Why You Should Hire a Life Coach Today!

Get Out of Your Head and on with Your Dreams:

The majority of my clients spend months before we have our first meeting spinning incredibly complicated webs of thought about their potential futures. As someone who readily admits getting trapped in her own head, let me say

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Gratitude and Selfless Giving

The hidden gems of the holiday season!

Gratitude and Selfless Giving

With Christmas just a few weeks away, I thought I would take the time to write a little about gratitude and selfless giving.

What is gratitude? The best definitions of the term include the words thankfulness and appreciation. When I talk to clients about gratitude, they rarely forget to mention the people around them that help them in their everyday lives. They are grateful for their wonderful jobs, families, parents, friends, neighbors, etc. The one thing they often forget to be grateful of is themselves! I like to remind clients to take stock of their healthy bodies, strong minds and open hearts.

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How to Sustain Exercise Habits

Motivating You to Continue Exercising

How to Sustain Exercise Habits

There is a famous cartoon that pictures a man sitting in a doctor’s office.  The doctor says to the patient, “Well, you can exercise one hour a day or be dead for 24.”

This is how the majority of people think about exercise – as a means of delaying death.  Not such a positive message, right?

Not only is it a doomsday message, but we also know from research data that the efficacy of this strategy to help people sustain an exercise commitment is dismal. 

So why do we all believe that “getting healthy” is a good reason to help us sustain our exercise commitments?  Because it sounds like a logical strategy and because it is the primary message we hear from most health and fitness experts around the world.

Sadly, this message is not the right hook to keep you exercising.

Achieving health and fitness is a long-term goal that takes time, energy and commitment.  There is no immediate gratification associated with the idea of “HEALTH”. 

As humans, we are hard-wired to want immediate gratification.  Generally speaking, we want what we want, when we want it because that makes us feel good.  So, how is our desire for immediate gratification tied to sustaining exercise habits over a lifetime?

It turns out that without an immediate return on investment with respect to exercise, most people will not be motivated to sustain an active lifestyle.

What can you do to increase your chances of staying active throughout your life?

Step one:

Find out what your real immediate return on investment (ROI) is with exercise and focus on that!

HINT: Something positive that makes exercise a gift to yourself: “I will have increased energy and reduced stress throughout the day if I exercise!”

Step two:

Keep a flexible mindset with respect to exercise.  This means having an open mind about what exercise means. 

HINT: You may have in mind what you would like to do for exercise, but every now and then you might not want to do it.  Instead of applying willpower to “just get it done”, be flexible about what exercise might entail so you can enjoy some kind of activity without the negative impact of using willpower.

Step three:

Use a successful model like MAPS as a framework for coaching yourself to exercise. What is MAPS?  It is an acronym for a strategic model about exercise.  It looks like this:

Meaning: What does exercise means to you?

Awareness: What are our core beliefs about exercise?

Permission: Give yourself permission to make exercise a priority.

Strategy: How are you going to implement your intentions to exercise?


  1. Change your language about exercise from “I should” exercise to “I am willing” to exercise.
  2. Sustained motivation to exercise stems from the finding the RIGHT REASON we initiate exercise in the first place!  When motivation is linked to distant, clinical, or abstract goals, health behaviors are not compelling enough to trump the many other daily goals and priorities they constantly compete with.
  3. It is the lack of permission to prioritize self-care that is often toughest nut to crack when creating a sustainable behaviorWhen looking for ways to give yourself Permission to make exercise a priority, ask yourself this: Why would self-care ever be considered self-indulgent?
  4. Make sure that your experience from exercise isIf exercising at high intensities produces negative feeling for you about exercise, your chances of sustaining exercise are very low.  “No pain, no gain” does not work for most people – this is shown time and again in scientific research.  For sustainability, you need to choose physical activities that you enjoy!
  5. We know that moving our bodies is one of the best ways to release dopamine – the so-called “feel good” hormone in theHow do we link knowing this to wanting to exercise?  Tell yourself that by exercising today, you will feel great!

 Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to believe that: 

 You are your most functional and successful self when you exercise on a daily basis!


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How to Use your Weight Training Routine for More than Just Great Biceps

The Joy of Body Over Mind

How to Use your Weight Training Routine for More than Just Great Biceps

My personal training clients often ask me “how do you make yourself get through tough workouts without someone pushing you?”. My answer is a combination of reasons (including but not limited to pride, competitive drive and the desire to enjoy cookies on a regular basis…) but mainly I am able to get through tough workouts because I use my training time for more than just an opportunity to burn calories and tone muscles.

Think about your focus, meditation, confidence, overall wellness and accomplishment.

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Launching Inspired Coaching

IFW Launch

Launching Inspired Coaching

Launching the rebranding of the life coaching division of my business provided me with an opportunity to really think about my coaching business, what it means to me, and what type of benefit I feel I provide to my coaching clients.

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Metabolism, Energy, Glucose and You: The Mystery Solved!

Daily Menu and Workout Ideas Included

Metabolism, Energy, Glucose and You: The Mystery Solved!

Do you ever wonder how to unravel all of the advice you hear, read and watch on TV about the “right” way to eat in order to maximize your weight loss, raise your metabolic rate, and increase your energy?  I am going to help you sift through all of that information and give you a plan to follow each day.

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October Newsletter - The Experience of Pain during Exercise: Mental Toughness

The Importance on Training Your Brain

October Newsletter - The Experience of Pain during Exercise: Mental Toughness

I thought it fitting to discuss the issue of dealing with physical pain in relation to exercise this month, as our Inspired Fitness section of the newsletter is going to challenge you to take on some PAIN!

Now don't be scared! By pain, in this context, I mean the short lived intense physical discomfort you experience as a result of challenging workouts – not pain caused by hurting yourself due to an exercise related injury. I am hoping to INSPIRE you this month to meet the physical challenge your body is going to go through during our Metabolic Resistance Training with the mental toughness of a seasoned athlete. By meeting this challenge you will not only reap the physical benefits of the exercise training, but you will also gain the valuable ability to tolerate pain like an athlete.

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Perfectionism and The Holidays

A few ideas to help you survive the madness...

Perfectionism and The Holidays

Will the turkey be flavorful? How will I keep everything hot for The Big Meal? Did I make enough food? Is my house perfectly clean? Oh no, my crazy uncle is coming to dinner - what will my neighbors think? Did I purchase a gift for everyone on my list?

Does this sound like anyone you know? Do the holidays send you into a perfectionist tizzy? Well, let's all take a deep breath. No really, take a deep breath, then keep reading...

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Tips for Managing ADHD

50 Tips from the World's leading experts on ADHD

Two of the world’s leading experts on ADHD and the treatment/management of ADHD have put together a list of 50 tips for managing the deficits caused by ADHD.  I wanted to share this list as I have found it to be very useful when working with clients.


50 Tips for the non-medication treatment of ADHD

by Edward M. Hallowell, M.D. and John J. Ratey, M.D.


The treatment of adult ADHD begins with hope.


We break down the treatment of adult ADHD into five basic areas:


•    Diagnosis

•    Education

•    Structure, support, and coaching

•    Various forms of psychotherapy

•    Medication


Insight and Education

1.    Be sure of the diagnosis. Make sure you’re working with a professional who really understands ADHD and has excluded related or similar conditions such as anxiety states, agitated depression, hyperthyroidism, manic-depressive illness, or obsessive-compulsive disorder.

2.    Educate yourself. Perhaps the single most powerful treatment for ADHD is understanding ADHD in the first place. Read books. Talk with professionals. Talk with other adults who have ADHD. You’ll be able to design your own treatment to fit your own version of ADHD.

3.    Coaching. It is useful for you to have a coach, for some person near you to keep after you, but always with humor. Your coach can help you get organized, stay on task, give you encouragement or remind you to get back to work. Friend, colleague, or therapist (it is possible, but risky for your coach to be your spouse), a coach is someone to stay on you to get things done, exhort you as coaches do, keep tabs on you, and in general be in your corner. A coach can be tremendously helpful in treating ADHD.

4.    Encouragement. ADHD adults need lots of encouragement. This is in part due to their having many self-doubts that have accumulated over the years. But it goes beyond that. More than the average person, the ADHD adult withers without encouragement and positively lights up like a Christmas tree when given it. They will often work for another person in a way they won’t work for themselves. This is not “bad”, it just is. It should be recognized and taken advantage of.

5.    Realize what H is NOT, i.e., conflict with mother, etc.

6.    Educate and involve others. Just as it is key for you to understand ADHD, it equally if not more important for those around you to understand it–family, job, school, friends. Once they get the concept they will be able to understand you much better and to help you as well.

7.    Give up guilt over high-stimulus-seeking behavior. Understand that you are drawn to high stimuli. Try to choose them wisely, rather than brooding over the “bad” ones.

8.    Listen to feedback from trusted others. Adults (and children, too) with ADHD are notoriously poor self-observers. They use a lot of what can appear to be denial.

9.    Consider joining or starting a support group. Much of the most useful information about ADHD has not yet found its way into books but remains stored in the minds of the people who have ADHD. In groups this information can come out. Plus, groups are really helpful in giving the kind of support that is so badly needed.

10.    Try to get rid of the negativity that may have infested your system if you have lived for years without knowing what you had was ADHD. A good psychotherapist may help in this regard.

11.    Don’t feel chained to conventional careers or conventional ways of coping. Give yourself permission to be yourself. Give up trying to be the person you always thought you should be–the model student or the organized executive, for example–and let yourself be who you are.

12.    Remember that what you have is a neuropsychiatric condition. It is genetically transmitted. It is caused by biology, by how your brain is wired. It is NOT a disease of the will, nor a moral failing. It is NOT caused by a weakness in character, nor by a failure to mature. It’s cure is not to be found in the power of the will, nor in punishment, nor in sacrifice, nor in pain. ALWAYS REMEMBER THIS. Try as they might, many people with ADHD have great trouble accepting the syndrome as being rooted in biology rather than weakness of character.

13.    Try to help others with ADHD. You’ll learn a lot about the condition in the process, as well as feel good to boot.

Performance Management

14.    External structure. Structure is the hallmark of the non-pharmacological treatment of the ADHD child. It can be equally useful with adults. Tedious to set up, once in place structure works like the walls of the bobsled slide, keeping the speedball sled from careening off the track.

15.    Make frequent use of:

◦    lists

◦    color-coding

◦    reminders

◦    notes to self

◦    rituals

◦    files

16.    Color coding. Mentioned above, color-coding deserves emphasis. Many people with ADHD are visually oriented. Take advantage of this by making things memorable with color: files, memoranda, texts, schedules, etc. Virtually anything in the black and white of type can be made more memorable, arresting, and therefore attention-getting with color.

17.    Use pizzazz. In keeping with #15, try to make your environment as peppy as you want it to be without letting it boil over.

18.    Set up your environment to reward rather than deflate. To understand what a deflating environment is, all most adult ADHD’ers need do is think back to school. Now that you have the freedom of adulthood, try to set things up so that you will not constantly be reminded of your limitations.

19.    Acknowledge and anticipate the inevitable collapse of X% of projects undertaken, relationships entered into, obligations incurred.

20.    Embrace challenges. ADHD people thrive with many challenges. As long as you know they won’t all pan out, as long as you don’t get too perfectionistic and fussy, you’ll get a lot done and stay out of trouble.

21.    Make deadlines.

22.    Break down large tasks into small ones. Attach deadlines to the small parts. Then, like magic, the large task will get done. This is one of the simplest and most powerful of all structuring devices. Often a large task will feel overwhelming to the person with ADHD. The mere thought of trying to perform the task makes one turn away. On the other hand, if the large task is broken down into small parts, each component may feel quite manageable.

23.    Prioritize. Avoid procrastination. When things get busy, the adult ADHD person loses perspective: paying an unpaid parking ticket can feel as pressing as putting out the fire that just got started in the wastebasket. Prioritize. Take a deep breath. Put first things first. Procrastination is one of the hallmarks of adult ADHD. You have to really discipline yourself to watch out for it and avoid it.

24.    Accept fear of things going well. Accept edginess when things are too easy, when there’s no conflict. Don’t gum things up just to make them more stimulating.

25.    Notice how and where you work best: in a noisy room, on the train, wrapped in three blankets, listening to music, whatever. Children and adults with ADHD can do their best under rather odd conditions. Let yourself work under whatever conditions are best for you.

26.    Know that it is O.K. to do two things at once: carry on a conversation and knit, or take a shower and do your best thinking, or jog and plan a business meeting. Often people with ADHD need to be doing several things at once in order to get anything done at all.

27.    Do what you’re good at. Again, if it seems easy, that is O.K. There is no rule that says you can only do what you’re bad at.

28.    Leave time between engagements to gather your thoughts. Transitions are difficult for ADHD’ers, and mini-breaks can help ease the transition.

29.    Keep a notepad in your car, by your bed, and in your pocketbook or jacket. You never know when a good idea will hit you, or you’ll want to remember something else.

30.    Read with a pen in hand, not only for marginal notes or underlining, but for the inevitable cascade of “other” thoughts that will occur to you.

Mood Management

31.    Have structured “blow-out” time. Set aside some time in every week for just letting go. Whatever you like to do–blasting yourself with loud music, taking a trip to the race track, having a feast–pick some kind of activity from time to time where you can let loose in a safe way.

32.    Recharge your batteries. Related to #30, most adults with ADHD need, on a daily basis, some time to waste without feeling guilty about it. One guilt-free way to conceptualize it is to call it time to recharge your batteries. Take a nap, watch T.V., meditate. Something calm, restful, at ease.

33.    Choose “good”, helpful addictions such as exercise. Many adults with ADHD have an addictive or compulsive personality such that they are always hooked on something. Try to make this something positive.

34.    Understand mood changes and ways to manage these. Know that your moods will change willy-nilly, independent of what’s going on in the external world. Don’t waste your time ferreting out the reason why or looking for someone to blame. Focus rather on learning to tolerate a bad mood, knowing that it will pass, and learning strategies to make it pass sooner. Changing sets, i.e., getting involved with some new activity (preferably interactive) such as a conversation with a friend or a tennis game or reading a book will often help.

35.    Related to #34, recognize the following cycle which is very common among adults with ADHD: Something “startles” your psychological system, a change or transition, a disappointment or even a success. The precipitant may be quite trivial. This “startle” is followed by a mini-panic with a sudden loss of perspective, the world being set topsy-turvy. You try to deal with this panic by falling into a mode of obsessing and ruminating over one or another aspect of the situation. This can last for hours, days, even months.

36.    Plan scenarios to deal with the inevitable blahs. Have a list of friends to call. Have a few videos that always engross you and get your mind off things. Have ready access to exercise. Have a punching bag or pillow handy if there’s extra angry energy. Rehearse a few pep talks you can give yourself, like, “You’ve been here before. These are the ADHD blues. They will soon pass. You are O.K.”

37.    Expect depression after success. People with ADHD commonly complain of feeling depressed, paradoxically, after a big success. This is because the high stimulus of the chase or the challenge or the preparation is over. The deed is done. Win or lose, the adult with ADHD misses the conflict, the high stimulus, and feels depressed.

38.    Learn symbols, slogans, sayings as shorthand ways of labelling and quickly putting into perspectives slip-ups, mistakes, or mood swings. When you turn left instead of right and take your family on a 20-minute detour, it is better to be able to say, “There goes my ADHD again,” than to have a 6-hour fight over your unconscious desire to sabotage the whole trip. These are not excuses. You still have to take responsibility for your actions. It is just good to know where your actions are coming from and where they’re not.

39.    Use “time-outs” as with children. When you are upset or overstimulated, take a time-out. Go away. Calm down.

40.    Learn how to advocate for yourself. Adults with ADHD are so used to being criticized, they are often unnecessarily defensive in putting their own case forward. Learn to get off the defensive.

41.    Avoid premature closure of a project, a conflict, a deal, or a conversation. Don’t “cut to the chase” too soon, even though you’re itching to.

42.    Try to let the successful moment last and be remembered, become sustaining over time. You’ll have to consciously and deliberately train yourself to do this because you’ll just as soon forget.

43.    Remember that ADHD usually includes a tendency to overfocus or hyperfocus at times. This hyperfocusing can be used constructively or destructively. Be aware of its destructive use: a tendency to obsess or ruminate over some imagined problem without being able to let it go.

44.    Exercise vigorously and regularly. You should schedule this into your life and stick with it. Exercise is positively one of the best treatments for ADHD. It helps work off excess energy and aggression in a positive way, it allows for noise-reduction within the mind, it stimulates the hormonal and neurochemical system in a most therapeutic way, and it soothes and calms the body. When you add all that to the well-known health benefits of exercise, you can see how important exercise is. Make it something fun so you can stick with it over the long haul, i.e., the rest of your life.

45.    Make a good choice in a significant other. Obviously this is good advice for anyone. But it is striking how the adult with ADHD can thrive or flounder depending on the choice of mate.

46.    Learn to joke with yourself and others about your various symptoms, from forgetfulness, to getting lost all the time, to being tactless or impulsive, whatever. If you can be relaxed about it all to have a sense of humor, others will forgive you much more.

47.    Schedule activities with friends. Adhere to these schedules faithfully. It is crucial for you to keep connected to other people.

48.    Find and join groups where you are liked, appreciated, understood, enjoyed. Conversely, don’t stay too long where you aren’t understood or appreciated.

49.    Pay compliments. Notice other people. In general, get social training, as from your coach.

50.    Set social deadlines.

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Work-Life Balance

Five Tips for Work-Life Balance

What does work-life balance feel like?  Just like your own physical balance, work-life balance is unique for each person and will look and feel differently for each of us.  The work-life balance that is optimal for you may not be what is optimal for your partner, friend, neighbor or colleague.  As individuals, we each need to seek to be continually moving towards our own optimal state of work-life balance.

Most of us know what it feels like when our work-life balance is off.  We feel tired, drained, burnt-out, under-motivated, snappish, anxious, bored, unsatisfied, unfulfilled, joyless, etc.  It is important to be mindful when we start to drift towards these feelings.  As the shift away from balance occurs, we need to start thinking about the steps we want to take to move back towards that feeling of balance. 

We all strive to find that balance point where we are motivated, engaged, fulfilled and satisfied with just enough joy-filled outside of work experiences to keep us connected to ourselves outside of work.

 Now that we know the signs of moving away from balance, what are some things we can do to reinstate that balance most people crave?

Five Tips for Improving Work-Life Balance

  1. Be mindful of what allowed your drift away from balance to occur.  Are you working more to avoid certain things in your personal life?  Do you need to address those issues so that you can leave work behind and enjoy your home life? (ex: Conflict at home with your partner may tempt you to work long hours to avoid confrontations or uncomfortable interactions.)
  2. Review your ability to set boundaries between work and life.  (ex: Perhaps you take calls, answer emails, schedule meetings, review work or produce work product outside of your expected work hours.)
  3. Use your time at work in the most productive manner.  Do you work efficiently, have good work systems in place and maintain your focus on tasks at hand during designated work hours?  When you are at home, are you able to focus on your home-life in a fulfilling way? (ex: You habitually check personal email, social media, make personal calls, etc. during work hours or allow your attention to drift to work responsibilities during family time or social engagements.)
  4. Whether at home or at work, make joy or enjoyment your priority. (ex: You look for ways to make all situations the best they can be, have a positive outlook and handle adversities with a resilient spirit.)
  5. Use your calendar for both work responsibilities and social engagements.  Keep track of your calendar, pace yourself and remain mindful of your energy. (ex: Your calendar reflects a balance of work related responsibilities as well as fulfilling social engagements.  You keep yourself aware of your calendar and maintain it regularly.)

One of the best reasons to hire a life coach is seeking help to restore your personal sense of work-life balance.  A great coach can help you become aware of why life feels out of whack and help you put together a road map for getting back on track. 

In addition, your coach will help you move through the steps needed to achieve your goal of improved work-life balance.  The two of you will break down the steps you need to take into manageable actions.  Your coach will also help keep you accountable to making the progress you seek.

Achieving what you feel is your optimal work-life balance is not easy!  The people around you that have managed to achieve it have worked very hard to do so.  If you feel terrified to let go at work in order to have a more balanced life, consider the fact that the word “terrified” describes your state of being with respect to how you spend forty hours or more of your week!  Consider that any life worth living is one where you are able to live in peace and “at-choice” with your daily life. 

If your life is running you, maybe now is the time to enlist in help to get you back in the driver’s seat of your own life.  Contact the coaches at Pivotal Perspectives Life Coaching today to schedule a complimentary session.

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